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Things I’m Afraid To Tell You – Wave No. 2


Y’all may have heard of this mini movement. It all started with Jess’s Things I’m Afraid To Tell You posts (#2 and #3), which inspired Ez to start a challenge to herself and others, causing Meg to gather some more for a second round of Things I’m Afraid To Tell You, where bloggers are bearing their soul and getting real honest with each other and our readers.

I have always tried to be super transparent and honest on this blog. But the truth is Modern Eve is a highly edited version of my life. You see the photographs that I think make me look the best, the instagrams where I have styled things just right, the tweets that talk about how fabulous and fun my weekend is. It’s not that I don’t have ugly, sad or even boring days, it’s just that I don’t talk about them. So this post is truly quite huge. I am letting y’all into some aspects of my world that I typically don’t talk about. Yes, that means religion and politics, too. Here it goes…

I don’t clean my house. And I only have a maid come once a month. I know, it’s gross. To be fair, I actually do a very fairly decent job of keeping things put away and straightened. I hate clutter and like to have an organized home. But, I never run the vacuum, clean a toilet or dust. Husband doesn’t really either, so there you go. The day the maids come is a good day. The week before they come is kind of grimy.

I don’t work out. My close friends know this and I am not (too) ashamed of it, but for some reason admitting it to people I don’t know is hard. I definitely wouldn’t say I am lazy. I am always running around somewhere, working on some project, but I just hate the gym, I don’t see the point in running unless it’s to chase after a ball in a competitive team sport (which I am too out of shape to play), and I am too cheap to join a yoga gym. I’ve never really had to worry about my weight, but I am fearful it’s going to catch up with me once I have children. I recently was approached by a well-known fitness company to collaborate. I am embarrassed to tell them that it’s probably not a good fit.

I am very conservative in my political views. And I really hope Obama does not get re-elected. This one is actually probably the most terrifying for me to share. I know many of my friends and readers feel very differently about these issues. And while I am completely okay with that (the world would be a very boring place if we were all the same), I fear that y’all will not only judge, but actually hate me for my opinion.

I graduated from Seminary. That’s right. I have a Masters in Biblical Counseling from Dallas Theological Seminary. It’s something I never mention because honestly, I fear that it will stereotype me in a way I don’t want to be stereotyped. I’ve occasionally mentioned my faith in Jesus Christ before when it seems appropriate and not preachy, but for some reason acknowledging that I went to Seminary puts me in some whole other category. In fact, I actually hate the stereotype of Christian all together. Everyone, whether you’re a believer or a non-believer, has their own assumptions in their mind when someone announces that they’re a Christian, sometimes it’s positive and many times it’s negative. I am a follower of Jesus Christ, my faith is a the most important thing to me, and I would gladly have a conversation with anyone that wants to about that topic. But, I don’t have any plans for that to be an outright agenda for Modern Eve.

And yes, I am not using my masters degree that I am still paying student loans for. And I might be the only fashion/ style blogger ever to go to DTS. I am actually worried that I am going to come up on some google search now for the school and people will see my blog and think I have been led astray.

I would like to have children soon. This one is complicated. Originally Husband and I were planning on having children after three years of marriage. It’s been five years and we still don’t have children, by choice. I have been thinking more and more about starting a family, but I know Husband would like to be more financial secure. Most of our friends have children, but then there are others that are having a difficult time getting pregnant. I don’t know if I’m more afraid of having a hard time getting pregnant myself or feeling guilty for having an easy time.

I would love to be a full-time blogger. My insecurity is totally hearing laughter right now. I announced earlier today that I quit my job, but that does not mean that I am making enough (not even close!) to have Modern Eve, the blog, be my full-time job. I will be offering my freelance social media and online marketing services for other lifestyle brands, as well as collaborating with some friends on some really fun projects. But I really wish I could find more lucrative ways to make money through blogging alone.

 

Well, there you go. I don’t know if I feel a sigh of relief or want to go run and hide. Regardless, thank you so much for reading and hopefully not judging (too harshly). If you have written a Things I’m Afraid To Tell You Post, please leave a link to it in the comments and make sure to check out and support the other bloggers who are being vulnerable today.

Bloggers Who Participated in Wave No. 2:

Cassie: Coco + Kelley / Christine: Court & Hudson / Caitlin: Sacramento Street / Roxy: My Cup of Te / Crystal: Blog / Meg: MIMI+MEG / Ashlina: The Decorista / Katie: Modern Eve / Erin: Apartment 34 / Erica: Design Blahg / Victoria: Vmac & Cheese / Christine: Miles to Style / Franki: Life in a Venti Cup / Sue: The Zhush / Erika: Radiant Republic / Gabrielle: Savvy Home / Monika: The Doctor’s Closet / Naomi: Design Manifest/Tobe: Because It’s Awesome / Becca: {extra}ordinary wonders / Lynzy: Sparkling Footsteps / Hitha: Hitha On The Go / Sarah: Note To Self / Liz: So Much To Smile About / Sarah: Blogstar / Alissa: The Goods Design / Jessie: Style & Pepper / Erika: Small Shop Studio / AV: Long Distance Loving / Maggie: Maggie Rose Blog / Nicole: The City Girl In Me / Priscilla: The Best Laid Plans / Jen: Concrete Jungle DC / Janelle: Food Fashion Fitness / Natalie: East Coast Chic

Thanks again to Jess for her initial post, and to Ez for starting the movement.

Here are the bloggers that participated in Ez’s Wave No. 1 of Things I’m Afraid To Tell You:

Design for Mankind | Little Brown Pen | Beautiful Hello | Curating Style | Sweet Fine Day | The Jealous Curator | Happy Days | Sage & Berries | Really Handmade | Peck Life | Satsuma Press | Rena Tom | For the Easily Distracted | The Hemborg Wife | Vitamini Handmade | Courtney Khail Stationery and Design | Meg in Progress | Dando Photography Blog | Widdershins22 | Alison Citron | Pink Moon Daily | Just Pretty Things | From China Village | Tea with Me | The Darling Ewe | Not Your Average Ordinary | The Electric Typewriter | Elleby Design | Parsimonia {Secondhand With Style} | Life as an Artistpreneur | Hello Cupcake | Dellie | The A & B Stories | Pretty Little Things | Feistyelle | Nib & Zed | Well and Cheaply | I Ripple. I Dance. | Whitfield Awesome Blog | Foxtrot Press | Dry As Toast | The List of Now | Apple Blue | For the Love of | Four Flights of Fancy | Miss Modish | Snapshots & Secrets | Dirty Laundry | Bubby & Bean | Penelope’s Press | Little Nostalgia | Vale Design | Pikaland | Fleurishing | Print Pretty | Vespa Tales | Hazel & Agnes | Amanda’s Musings | Mo’ Funk Designs | Ordinary Mommy | Camp 1899 | In Honor of Design | Liberty’s Yarn | Love, Life & Pictures | Stacey Winters | Owl in the Rain | Living Life Creatively | Emma Elizabeth Clease | I Live in Vacouver Now | British Cream Tea

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  • laura parke

    katie! i’m loving your list. all of these lists have me thinking i should join in, but it’s so scary. thank you for being brave and sharing these things you’re afraid to tell others. i’m so proud of you! i have the same feelings on sharing my faith. it’s a huge part of my life, and guides my decisions, but it’s scary to let people in on such a personal and sometimes controversial topic. i can’t thank you enough for your transparency today. i’m cheering you on as you dive head first into full time freelance!! cheers to you!

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      Laura, I’d love for you to join in =) It’s actually been so affirming. Much more than I expected.

  • http://Www.savvyhomeblog.com/ Gabrielle | Savvy Home

    Katie, I applaud you for sharing these things with us! I can’t say that I’m Christian or conservative in my political views, but I also don’t think we should hide behind our beliefs for fear of being judged. Diversity of opinions is healthy and the respect for others’ beliefs is even more. I also completely relate to your views on cleaning, having children (I want them but it’s so scary!) and wanting to live off blogging. All the best! X

  • Diana Oates

    Katie, this is so awesome. As a woman of a God and a political conservative, I find this post to be amazingly candid and just down right awesome. I agree that sometimes people don’t mention things about themselves in the fear that they will be put into a box or prejudged. Good for you, and kudos on the amazing post! As a reporter, I find myself often concealing my personal opinions maybe too much in order to not ‘fit the mold’ of being ‘typical’ or ‘atypical’ for that matter and for what? You were right when you said that the world would be a very boring place if we all thought the same on every issue.

    XOXO

  • Molly Bostelman

    Katie, I’m so excited for you and this new chapter!  I had been wondering for awhile how you were managing to do all that you do with your blog, fashion stuff, AND a full time job.  If anyone can juggle the craziness, it’s you, but I’m excited that you’re pursuing your passions.  I loved this blog post and your honesty, and I’ll be praying for you as you get adjusted to the new day to day outside of a 9 to 5.  Proud of you and all you’re accomplishing!

  • http://theatticbirds.wordpress.com/ Lainey

    Well done! And you’re not the only one who doesn’t mention DTS up front. It’s odd, isn’t it? It’s not shame or embarrassment…just like “oh ya – I did that…” I like to think that those years formed us into better women who understand people a bit better than most.
    Congratulations on your big news! You’ll be great!

  • http://smallshopstudio.com Erika [small shop]

    We have a maid too! Now that you work for yourself, you can think of it as a good business decision. Is it really worth those two hours that you could bill on a project instead? Cheaper to hire someone to do it.

    I remember a friend of mine told me to start trying before I was ready. I kinda wish I had. It took us 3 years to have our daughter. I tell all my friends now, it will probably take 6-12 months to get pregnant (unless you’re lucky, and you shouldn’t feel bad about that), and then you’re pregnant for 9 months! So really, you’ll have plenty of time to adjust. And honestly, I don’t know if you’re ever really ready! You can’t be. It’s a totally different ballgame. ;o)

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      Erika, thank you so much! I am really excited to have children, but I am also terrified. It’s good to know you’re never really ready.

  • http://nuhasofiyan.blogspot.in/ Nuha

    There never seems to be a perfect balance of what want and how to get it.  Whether it be children, or becoming self-employed the first step of admitting that you want something is the hardest.  I really hope your new endeavor is everything you hope it will be :-)

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      Thank you so much! I hope the risk is worth the reward.

  • http://www.courtandhudson.com/ Christine @ court and hudson

    Don’t run and hide – I’m so proud of you! You have a lot of courage for sharing your personal views on topics that are VERY controversial, and I commend you for that. 

    And I’m SO excited that you’ve decided to go out on your own, it will be tough, but so much more rewarding. 
    : ) 

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      You’re so sweet to say that Christine.

  • alliewears

    Oh gosh, you hit so many great points! Is it too late to create one of these posts? I feel like I have so much to say!

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      No, not at all. Definitely do it and send me the link once you do.

  • Erin Hiemstra

    Hey lady – looks like we have a LOT in common, including our new day jobs! Email me, we should totally chat about that!! But I’m also in the same boat on pretty much everything else – from babies to house cleaning :) Let’s band together and conquer the world! xx

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      We do! =) I just sent you an email…I am all about conquering the world!

  • Allison Wiley

    Katie,

  • Allison Wiley

    Katie, I think you should be commended for this post! It is very brave to express your political opinions and the fact you graduated from seminary (which is very impressive, by the way.) Both religion and politics are usually breezed over to avoid conflict, so I think it’s great that you expressed your opinions.

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      Thanks Allison!

  • http://seventeenthandirving.blogspot.com/ Lauren | Seventeenth & Irving

    I’ve enjoyed reading all of these posts to see the heartfelt honesty of some of my favorite bloggers. And in the process, discovering new blogs to love! Really happy to have found you, Katie!

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      Thanks Lauren. It’s such a breath of fresh air to have everyone coming out at the same time. I love it.

  • http://lifeinaventicup.com franki durbin

    Beautiful post! Loved learning more about you

    xoxo
    Franki

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  • http://mydesignchic.com/ designchic

    I am loving reading the honesty of this group…such a fun idea!!  So easy to post all of the “perfect” things  – so happy to be your newest follower!!

  • http://twitter.com/WhitneyEnglish Whitney English

    I’ve just found your blog, and I adore you already. I completely relate to the insecurity of sharing my faith and political views, but this is the perfect post to do this in! thank you for sharing!!

  • dustjacket attic

    I love your honesty, I think you girls are so great for sharing!
    xxx

  • Farrar Barker

    Katie, I love your blog and love you more!  This is great friend.  Very excited for you!

  • http://www.ilovethatblog.com Jordin

    New to your blog and a fellow Texan! I like you even more after reading this! Good luck with your new job.
    Jordin
    Ps-never a perfect time for kids. It’s a life changer but the best!

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  • inhonorofdesign

    Katie, 
    Well I am so happy I read this post. I think we have a lot in common! What I love about these posts is that you really get to know the blogger behind the blog.

    I also am very conservative and don’t get me started on Obama…;) I think its amazing that you are a minister! My husband majored in History and Theology so I have such a deep respect for those who have taken the time to learn their faith and share with others. I hate the stereotype Christians have been given. It makes it challenging when I want to share that big part of myself with others.

    And on the children thing…(read my Things I’m afraid to tell you post) for what its worth, sometimes the best things in life are unplanned. My husband and I decided to just be open to life right after we got married. We had our first son a year later. Despite finances being challenging, it has opened a whole new world of joy to us, and it has far outweighed the stress. Every couple is different, and God has a plan for each family. Praying yours happens soon!

    Hugs,
    Anna

  • houseofearnest

    you are so sweet and one of the most genuine and encouraging people I’ve ever met. 

    I laughed at some portions because I, too, hire a maid and went to a theological school with a masters that I don’t use :)  

    You’re an amazing creative and I’m so so happy you’re chasing your dreams!

  • Liz

    Katie, this is the first of your blog postings I have ever read and I am glad that it was but it definitely won’t be the last.  I read The Goods Design almost daily and after reading Alissa’s “Things I’m Afraid To Tell You” post I thought I’d check out a few others.  I honestly was drawn to your blog simply because “Eve” is in the name.  Eve is my middle name and I’m a Christian too so there ya go.  I am glad this post was the first I got to read because I really appreciate your honesty about your faith and the importance of it in your life.  I too can be nervous about being judged and having stereotypes placed on me for my being a Christian.  I appreciate you sharing your beliefs (and so unapologetically) in this kind of a space where it is uncommon and you don’t know how it may be received.  Keep being you!

  • Mommy Chic blog

    Fantastic post. So glad I found your blog!!

  • Meredith

    I thought I was the only one who didn’t clean their house!! Our maid also comes once a month and that’s the only time the dust is gone. You just made me feel SO much better!!
    Meredith
    http://www.thelovelyowl.com

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      You are not alone! =) I am trying to get better, but it’s so hard. Life is busy and cleaning is no fun.

  • Cassie {Hi Sugarplum}

    Love hearing more intimate details of who you really are! I like you even more now, if that’s even possible! :)

    • http://modern-eve.com Katie Anderson

      Cassie, that is so sweet. Thank you!

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  • SarahAmandaBray

    Great post Katie! Let’s go to lunch or coffee soon! 

  • Kat Jones

    I really liked this post and appreciate your honesty.  I’m also politically conservative and struggle with what you mentioned above.  I’m so glad to know other’s feel the same way. Your blog inspires me to think about my wardrobe and have fun with it!  Good luck on your new adventure!

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  • Mica

    i LOVE this katie!!!  you are so fabulous, and thanks for sharing :)

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